Choosing Funeral Songs for a Loved One
Selecting music for a funeral can feel like a daunting task, especially during such an emotional time. But the right songs can bring comfort, spark memories and create a fitting farewell that honours your loved one’s life. Whether you’re planning a traditional service, a celebration of life or something in between, music plays a powerful role in setting the tone and expressing what words alone sometimes can’t.
Here are a few thoughts to guide you through choosing funeral songs with care and meaning.
Think about what they loved
Start by reflecting on the person you’re remembering. What music did they enjoy? Was there a particular artist, genre or song that always made them smile? It doesn’t have to be a classic hymn or a well-known ballad. It might be something more unexpected – a favourite from their youth, a song they always sang in the car, or something they danced to at family celebrations. These personal touches can make the service feel more intimate and unique.
Match the mood you want to create
Funeral songs don’t all have to be sombre. While many people choose gentle, reflective music to support quiet moments of remembrance, others might prefer uplifting tracks that celebrate a life well lived. Think about the atmosphere you want to create. Do you want the music to comfort, inspire or help people remember the joy the person brought to their lives?
You could include a mix – a heartfelt song to begin the service, something light-hearted or meaningful in the middle, and perhaps a hopeful or reassuring piece to close.
Consider meaningful lyrics
Sometimes, it’s the words of a song that strike the deepest chord. Lyrics that speak of love, loss, hope or peace can beautifully echo what people are feeling. You might find a song that expresses everything you want to say but can’t quite put into words. Don’t be afraid to choose songs that are deeply personal, even if they’re not traditionally used at funerals.
Talk it through with family and friends
Choosing funeral songs doesn’t have to be a decision you make alone. Talking with family or close friends can help you come up with ideas, share memories and decide on songs that feel right for everyone. You might also find that someone has a suggestion that brings back a moment you’d forgotten, or that was especially meaningful to your loved one.
Music Playlists
Where to find inspiration
A good place to start is the Music Playlist on the Bowra & O’Dea website. You’ll find over 3,000 songs to choose from. Alternatively, simply go online and search ‘most popular funeral songs’.
Popular funeral song choices
If you’re not sure where to begin, here are a few songs that are often chosen for their comfort, beauty or timeless message:
- Time to Say Goodbye – Andrea Bocelli and Sarah Brightman
- Somewhere Over the Rainbow – Israel Kamakawiwo’ole
- Supermarket Flowers – Ed Sheeran
- My Way – Frank Sinatra
- You Raise Me Up – Josh Groban
- Tears in Heaven – Eric Clapton
- Wind Beneath My Wings – Bette Midler
- Abide with Me – Traditional hymn
Remember, there’s no right or wrong choice, only what feels right for you and the person you’re honouring.
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Final thoughts
Music has a way of connecting us, stirring our emotions and reminding us of special moments. When chosen with love, funeral songs can become lasting memories themselves – reminders of the person, the impact they had, and the way they’re still felt in the lives of those who loved them.
Take your time, trust your instincts and don’t be afraid to make it personal. After all, the songs you choose are part of the story you’re telling, and every story is different.
